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  1. Edible Ireland

    Hear hear! An excellent piece, Caitriona. There’s an awful lot of judgement flying around the place these days when it comes to food.

  2. Mel

    An excellent piece. I really admire your blog and your determination to do the best for your family. I agree there is a lot of judgement flying around about food. It is easy for Jamie and Rachel to pass judgement; they are not struggling financially and suffering from under-support from a government that seems determined to penalize families. When you look at the tax system here, there are no breaks for people with kids, likewise the medical system. Public transport is ridiculously expensive. It would cost me over €16 per day just to do all the school runs I have on the bus. School is expensive – uniforms, books, and voluntary contributions, not to mention that the school day and calendar is not geared for working families. I think families are under so much stress, financially and in so many other ways that it is no wonder they make bad food choices.

  3. Joanna

    You write reallly well and deal in complexity, something not loved by food pundits and journalists. I I agree totally about celebrating whatever meal you produce or are given and I am sure there are mamy people out there who feel the same way. All best, Joanna

  4. Minnie .

    My kids have eaten cheese on toast or cereal for dinner more than once. There have been times when I have been ill or stressed and was just not up to cooking a decent meal. Feeding your children a healthy homecooked meal is very important but sometimes I feel my own well-being has to take priority. I actually prefer when a blogger is honest like this. I hope you feel well again soon.

  5. I love this post – I find “celebrity” foodie people extremely patronising. As though we don’t all do our best. I listened to Rachel A a few times this week and I think she’s not coming at it from a realistic perspective at all. We all know what’s good, and we all do our best, and sometimes our best is going to be toast for tea and that’s fine. I truly love this post and thank you for saying it.

  6. kathryn

    Sometimes it isn’t just a matter of being short of skills and no-how, it’s sheer physical exhaustion. I find myself wanting to slap patronising presenters when they are telling someone who’s trying to raise a family on a minimum wage that they need to take the time to learn how to feed their family properly. Even with all the skills in the world there are times when you are just grateful you can make toasted cheese, boil an egg or grill a fish finger because you know your little darling will actually eat it and you can do it with your eyes shut – which you have to do because you are too tired/sick/fed up to do anything else

  7. Louise

    Powerful post Caitriona. Even under the best of circumstances parents are not ‘perfect’ all the time. Whatever this notion of perfect’ has become, it seems pretty unattainable to me most days.

    And I know I don’t experience even half half the stressors many families face. I do try my best (most of the time!) My fallback food for the kids is store-bought gnocchi – they will eat it with butter, tomato sauce and pesto (and shop-bought pesto – apparently we are supposed to hand make that from scratch as well!)
    All we can do is try. When all else fails, there is cereal and toast :)

    • Thanks Louise. There’s such a thing as “good enough” parenting and I like to think I apply it where possible. It’s unrealistic to expect parents to live up to these expectations where everything is cooked/grown/reared from scratch. While I’m a great believer in a wholesome food and lifestyle there are limits!

  8. AnSapphireGael

    what a refreshing post and clearly from person living in the land of reality for most folks. After a long hard slog at work and with the price of even basics so expensive , my creative juices wither come dinner time. My burning thought is what is fast, hot and cheap (not affordable).

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